With Elizabeth Causton, MSW
The dance floor is a metaphor for the relationships in a family. This metaphor is used in two quite interesting palliative care stories to explain why it is important for caregivers to stay off the family dance floor.
- 0:48 What changes and what is lost when a caregiver moves onto the dance floor of the dying person?
- 1:50 Problems with crossing onto their family dance floor: When we enter the family dance, we are most likely to go out next to the person most like ourselves.
- 2:22 Problems with crossing onto their family dance floor: When on someone else’s dance floor, we lose objectivity and credibility as a caregiver. This reduces our effectiveness and fragments the family.
- 3:10 Story: When we get on the dance floor, it gets complicated. Whose place are we taking?
- 6:33 What needs to happen if you find yourself on the dance floor?
- 7:40 Are there times when it is appropriate to be on the dance floor?
- 8:15 Story: What happens when an caregiver forms a special relationship with one resident?
- What is the impact of colleagues?
- What is the impact on the ability of colleagues to provide care when she (the RCA) isn’t around?
- What will be the impact on the RCA when the resident dies?
- What will be the impact on the RCA’s children when the resident dies?
- 12:10 Therapeutic boundaries are important because they help us to remember that we are there as caregivers. We have our own lives. We are not their family.
- 12:36 End.
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